Email is evil
Personally, I love email:
- It's still the best way to talk online, overall – the most open format, the best client programs.
- Online beats offline since everything is archived and searchable.
- Written beats spoken since you have time to think stuff through, and you can attach images, spreadsheets, code, etc.
However, I noticed that email discussions bring the worst out of people, whereas walking over to them and talking brings the
best out of them. I guess it's because emails feel impersonal, leading to "email rage" much like feeling isolated inside a car
leads to "road rage".
On top of that, for many people email is their todo list, there still really being no better alternative for keeping a todo
list. What this means though is that sending an email with a suggestion implying work on their part without prior face-to-face
discussion looks like a written order to do something. I believe this impression can't be avoided even with the most polite,
"pretty please"-infested wording. It still feels like "you didn't even bother to talk to me and you expect me to do things!"
So I decided, roughly, to never open any discussion over email. It's fine for followups and bug reports, and it's fine if
it's known to work for the people involved. But my default assumption is that email is an evil thing capable of creating
tensions and conflicts out of nowhere. Much better to call the person, check that they're available to talk and go talk to them.
Then, maybe, send them the summary over email to get all that archiving and searching goodness without the evil price.
Now that I've read this, I realize that I usually do this. I must
have become subconsciously aware that in-person interaction is a better
way of initiating conversations. I usually only will start a
conversation via email if I can't get a hold of the person face-to-face
first.
Email actually *is* (one of) my TODO list(s), so I find this post
very interesting. May change my behavior regarding to talking before
writing, or at least make me much more aware of it. Thanks
The question is – what to use for discussions, what service ?
I prefer mine analogue :)
Totally agree. Goes for all other electronic text communication as
well. Ever tried to have a decent conversation using text messages on
your phone? Ugh...
People should call more often in my opinion.
This applies to any kind of text communication.
Just calling up on the phone (if remotely located) or walking over to
the other person(s) and saying hello , then discussing issues often
resolves or at least sets a positive tone to move things forward. Also,
urgency can be better conveyed when talking personally – even on a
phone, than by typing things like "MUST", "ASAP", etc. in an email.
On the flip-side, one of the nice properties of email is that it's
asynchronous, which allows the receiver to decide when they're
comfortable processing it (within some appropriate delay).
Otherwise, calling someone or walking to their office implies that I
expect the person to stop what they're doing and switch their attention
to me. Of course people could always respond "not now" but in practice
most people will let you interrupt them out of politeness (or in case
the discussion actually is urgent). Having a culture where everyone
interrupts each other like that seems to be a big cause of "everyone's
busy but nothing gets done" kind of environments; at least from my
experience. :)
Since the majority of my messages aren't urgent or blocking, email
seems like the best approach most of the time.
A good solution is an email along the lines of "when can I call
you/when can we meet to discuss X?"
I think email is fine as long as it clearly doesn't look like an
action item and doesn't imply action items (so when it's obvious enough
just from mentioning X that an action item will come out of the story,
I'll omit X from the email and just suggest to talk without a
reason.)
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